It's been almost a year since I wrote about "30 days of doing things differently" - my first "newsletter". WOWZER!!! I can’t believe how different my life is today than it was a year ago. And I can’t believe I’ve written almost every month over the past year.
Although I’m extremely proud of myself for my continued writing, I have to admit that I've been “beating myself up” for the past two weeks because I missed last month.
Last month I completed a 6-day Hypnotherapy Training Course at The Wellness Institute in Seattle.. The training was AMAZING and LIFE-CHANGING for me in so many wonderfully awesome ways. The problem is that, today - RIGHT NOW - I have NO idea exactly what that means or looks like.
I feel lost. My Ego feels lost. My Ego does NOT like to feel lost. It wants to know exactly where it is, what is happening, and what is going to happen next. It wants to feel "in control”. It wants my life to follow a straight line, with guaranteed stops, destinations, and experiences. When this doesn’t happen, it wants to run and hide. I feel like I’ve been hiding since I got back from Seattle 2-weeks ago and I’m coming out of hiding today.
How many times has this happened to you? How many times have you just wanted to run and hide? How many times have you felt lost because your life isn’t following a straight line with guaranteed stops and destinations?
I’ve known for a long time that it IS ok to not know exactly what is going to happen next in life. However, knowing that it’s ok to "not know" and FEELING ok with not knowing is completely different. I just want the uncomfortable feeling of "not knowing" to go away!
Sometimes, however, we all just have to go THROUGH uncomfortable feelings and times in our lives. We can do things to help us feel better, which is usually lots of self-care, yet there is no “magic” anything that will make our feelings go away.
I'm learning that part of the human experience is learning how to feel and experience our feelings without numbing ourselves with chemicals, food, work, or anything else. Right now I’m right smack dab of the middle of learning how to do this - and it's not easy.
I’m done “beating myself up”. I'm making it a point to really focus on my own self-care. And I'm realizing that when I take care of myself, I end up getting more done than when I sit around obsessing over what I "want" to get done.
It seems that a lot of people I know have been going through similar experiences lately. If this is happening to you, or the next time it happens to you. I invite you to take solace in remembering a few things: you're not alone, take care of yourself even when that feels like the hardest thing to do, and "this too shall pass" - as long as you go through....
Peace, Love, and Lots of Hugs!
OK Wait! Before I go any further, let me explain.
Last month I did "30 Days of Letting Go of things that no longer serve my Highest Good". During this time, I realized that it is time for me to let go of my "Pilates Instructor Identity". I’m not closing the studio and I'm STILL teaching Pilates, I just wanted to get your attention. Did I do a good job?
I’ve been teaching Pilates for 17 years now and it’s never been my “dream” to own a Pilates Studio, it just kind of happened. When I opened my studio, my goal was to make affordable, QUALITY, Pilates - utilizing Pilates equipment - available in Lawrence; and then go on to become a psychologist.
Six-months after I bought this equipment, I went to inpatient treatment for alcoholism and instead of staying sober, I began a six and a half year journey through the depths of addiction. Needless to say, I never became a psychologist. However, I was given the vision of opening an Inpatient Addictions Treatment Center a year into this journey. Although, it took another five years before my journey out of addiction began, this vision has never left me.
July, 11, 2011 - 5 years ago - I let go of alcohol.
Last month, 5 years later, I decided it was time for me to let go of my “Pilates Identity”.
I’ve decided it's time for me to create a Wholeness Center that has a Pilates Studio in it, versus a Pilates Studio that offers “other stuff”. Over the past 3 years I’ve created a Personal Power Retreat Program and a 12-Week Personal Power Evolution, finished my Bachelors Degree in Psychology, and began studying different forms of Breathwork and Healing Touch.
When I think about all of the things I’ve been doing and writing about in my newsletters, I can’t help but ask myself - “What about Pilates?”
Pilates is still here. Pilates will always be here. Pilates itself is the gift that has, inadvertently, allowed all of these “other things” to be possible. Pilates has given me the opportunity to expand, evolve, and grow. However, I finally realized that holding onto my identity as a “Pilates Instructor” has begun to hold me back in following my dream. So it’s time to let go of this identity and step into the identity of my Authentic Self ~ whatever that may be.
Every weekend, this past June I participated in a different sacred ceremony, from Sweat Lodges to Spiritual Initiation’s. It was a very deeply healing month for me on many levels. And then, on July 3, Tony Burroughs came to the studio to share his wisdom and hold an Intender’s Circle. This was an incredibly moving and amazingly powerful event. The studio (now Wholeness Center) was filled with around 30 people from Lawrence and surrounding areas, even my parents and brother came from Wichita to be a part of this event.
This gathering of wonderful people, along with the support from my family, was the catalyst that has sparked my movement forward. Pilates opened the doors to this personal evolution of mine. However, the reality is that NONE of this would be possible without the love and support I receive from my parents. Whenever anyone thanks me for the work I’m doing, I always tell them to thank my parents too, because they allow the work I’m doing to be possible.
Now I'm saying it here: "THANK-YOU MOM & DAD! I LOVE YOU!"
And Thank-You to everyone reading this. For without your love and support, none of this would be possible either.
Peace, Love, and Lots of Hugs!
The “We Don’t Give a Crap” Rule. ~ Judi G. & The Hippie
Nine months ago I did an experiment of “Doing things differently for 30 Days”. Yesterday I was thinking that it was time for me to do another “30 of Something”. I didn’t know what I wanted the “something” to be until I heard my friend talk about a rule her and her husband came up with called "The We Don't Give a %*@K (Crap) Rule" regarding an annual BBQ they've hosted for 14 years.
They found that over time, they started focusing more on things being "perfect" for their guests, worrying that their guests wouldn't have a good time if things weren't "perfect". My friend started taking an entire week off work to clean, cook, and basically fret over making sure everything was just right. She found that her and her hubby started bickering more and more each year as they prepared for the event and started to question if it was worth it. This year she decided to try something new. My friend and her hubby came up with the "We Don't Give a Crap Rule". They decided that rather than worrying about everything being "perfect" and not enjoying themselves, they would focus on enjoying themselves and not worry about anything being "perfect".
This year my friend didn't take any time off work. She didn't stress about the cleanliness of her home or amount of food being served (by the way, this is party that is on the porch AND it's a potluck), there was no bickering with her hubby, AND she had a FABULOUS time!
I think we can all learn a little something from the "We Don't Give a Crap Rule". It isn’t about not giving a crap about anything. It’s about not giving a crap about being perfect. It’s about letting go of the old stories we tell ourselves about what we “should” be doing in order to win the approval of others. Or even that we need the approval of others in order to be happy with ourselves. It’s about not giving a crap about things that we hold onto even if their not for our Highest Good.
This whole "giving a crap" about what others think has been an issue for me for a long time. When I heard this story I thought I'd try “Not Giving a Crap for 30 Days”. My spiritual advisor, Jackie, suggested I try “Letting Go for 30 Days”. I think that fits much better. There are so many little things that would benefit me to "let go" of. From behaviors and actions to thoughts and emotions that no longer serve my Highest Good, as well as physical clutter in my home and studio. I have no idea what this "30 Day Challenge" is going to look like, however I'll let you know next month.
What are things that you could let go of today? What thoughts, beliefs, or old stories are you still holding on to that no longer serve your Highest Good? Is there any physical clutter that you could get rid of?
I've heard that once we let go of the things that no longer serve our Highest Good, we feel as though a heavy weight has been lifted off our shoulders. I wish it were that easy. Since I know that I could use a little assistance, I'm putting out an Intention Statement and I invite you to do so as well.
“For the next 30 Days, I intend that I let go of at least one thing everyday that no longer serves my Highest Good. I ask that the things I let go of are for the Highest & Greatest Good of all ~ The Universe, Myself, and anyone else concerned.”
So Be It & So It Is!
And As Always,
Peace, Love, & Lots of Hugs!
Wow! I can’t believe it’s the last day of May!!
This month has come and gone in what seems like a blink of an eye. My trip to Italy was amazing (above is a picture of Florence from Boboli Gardens) and getting back to the “real world” has been some what of an adventure. However, I’m trucking along and remembering to be patient with myself and continuing my commitment to consistently write AND SEND newsletters each month, even if it’s on the last day…
The “unofficial” start of summer was this weekend. The hot sun, gardening, pool time, lake time, vacations, and more are in the air now. There’s something about this time of year, when school is out of session, that seems to impact us whether we have kids, work in the education field, or not. Anytime there is a shift of energy, it is a great time to think about what we want to shift within ourselves.
This summer there will be several opportunities at Personal Power Pilates & Wholeness to support any sort of shift or change you would like to make within yourself. I will be having two Personal Power Retreats at The Light Center. The first one is this weekend and the next is August 5 - 7.
I will also be holding two Embracing Your Personal Power workshops. One on Thursday, June 8 from 5:45 - 9:00 pm, and one Sunday, June 12 from 3 - 6 pm. June 13 will be the start of the next new 12-week Personal Power Evolution Journey.
And then….on JULY 3 at 4:00 pm, TONY BURROUGHS, author of The Intender’s Handbook, will be at the studio for a short workshop and an Intender’s Circle led by him, himself. My Intention is that he will be the first of many more nationally known authors to hold workshops at P3W.
Pre-registration is not necessary for this gathering. However if you know you’re going to come, please let me know so I can have an idea of how many people to expect. A suggested Love Offering of $15 is requested, and as always not required.
What about PILATES???
Right now I am offering two Combo Classes - classes that are a combination of Reformer & Mat Exercises, plus more...
Private, Duet, and Trio Lessons are always available as well.
I am also offering Personalized Pilates Group Classes. If you have a small group of friends who would like to take a class together, this can be set up to meet your groups needs. Please call me for details.
Here's to a GREAT start to an AWESOME SUMMER!
Peace, Love, & Lots of Hugs!
Spring is here! For many people, spring means Garden Time. Even for those of us who don't have gardens, it's hard to ignore the fact that the major planting season in Kansas is here.
Last month I talked about my Word of the Year ~ Allow. I chose this word because I noticed that there were things I wasn’t allowing into my life in 2015. As soon as I shared my word with a good friend of mine, she sent me a You Tube Video titled Abraham Hicks 2015 - The Path of Most Allowance. Ha!!!
Inspiration: “the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something”
Intention: “an aim or plan”
Allow: “give the necessary time or opportunity for”
The changing of the calendar year always brings with it the inspiration to intend some sort of change in most people’s lives. Whether you call it a “New Year’s Resolution” or not, the energy of change is in the air and it’s everywhere when one year ends and another begins.
For me, I was inspired to intend that I practice the Art of Allowing this year. My word for the year is Allow.
In 2015 my word was Trust - a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. I trusted that everything in my life was going to work out for the Highest Good. Everything from my career to my education to my home life, relationships, finances, and more. And it did. And it still is.
Last year was the first year I tried the “Word of the Year” thing. It came to me out of nowhere when I was walking to class one day. Apparently having a word of the year is actually a “thing” that many people do. Now that I have Trust under my belt, I’m ready to go for Allow.
Although I was in a state of trust for most of 2015, there were some things I was afraid to allow into my life - consciously or unconsciously. I could trustthat good things were coming. However, simply allowing them to come and what to do when they came was unfamiliar for me. I tried to “plan” how things would work out and I tried to manage things I had no control over. Some things I will never have control over. For the things I was having trouble doing on my own, I didn’t allow others to help me.
This year, I’m ready to allow things to come to me without worry, doubt, second-guessing myself, or trying to "plan" how they will work out. I am also ready & willing to allow others to assist me. This is where I'm beginning my conscious practice of the Art of Allowing today. There will be more aspects of allowing for me to learn throughout the year. And today I'm willing to allow those lessons to come when they are ready. I must say that this isn’t an easy task and I’m grateful that I still have more than 11 months to practice.
What changes are you calling in for 2016?
What’s YOUR word (or words) for the year (or month, or week)?
I have to tell you, now that I know about having a word, I think everyone should have a word for themselves.
Peace, Love, and Lots of Hugs!
Two things I believe today:
Accepting Change is the key to Accepting Life.
And….Letting Go is THE Ultimate Goal in Life.
Back in October, I did a 30-Day experiment of “doing things I wouldn’t ‘normally’ do.” Today, over two-months later, I’ve gone from doing things differently in my daily life to doing things differently in my life as a whole. And whether I want to accept it or not, BIG things in my life are changing.
My mom’s mom passed away a week ago. She was my last grandparent to die. There’s something very surreal I’m feeling this week in relation to her passing, and in a way I feel like she chose to make her transition at this time as a way to remind me that NOW is time for the bigger picture of my life to change.
All of these small changes are adding up to big changes and it’s freaking my ego out! It wants to hold on to the things that are safe and familiar, even if they’re not for my Highest Good. I can choose to hold on if I want to. I don’t want to. I know it’s time for me to let go. I’ve even called in outside support to keep accountable. As far as my Grandma is concerned, she gave me something that I can’t hold on to, something that has changed and there’s nothing my ego can do about it.
She let go and she’s very, very happy now. She stayed with us for 3 years after my grandpa passed, even though I think she was ready to go sooner. I’m so glad she decided to stay. Last summer my parents, brother, nephew, boyfriend, & I got to surprise her with an unexpected visit the week of her 95th Birthday. My uncles and the rest of the family surprised her with a 95th Birthday Party (the day before her actual birthday - something she made sure everyone knew). And on her birthday, my dad, brother, nephew, and myself went to the Mariners game and made the sign in the picture below for her. Unfortunately we didn’t make it on the the big screen, but we still made it into her heart when we showed up the next day to show her what we had done.
Accepting change and letting go are two of the hardest things for most people. Change means letting go of the familiar and safe things we have in our life. Letting go of safety is scary. Many people don’t let go of something until they are forced to. This doesn’t have to be the case.
The first day of winter is upon us. Now is the perfect time to let go of things that no longer serve our Highest Good, so we can spend the next few months creating the life we dream of with a clean and clear slate.
Now IS the time to turn our dreams into reality. It’s time for us all to let go of the old and welcome new changes into our lives. I hope we all are able to start 2016 with whatever “clean slate” we need so that the New Year brings us ALL whatever our heart desire.
The newest thing at the studio is a weekly Meditation & Manifestation Meeting on Sunday’s at 4:30. Come join myself and others any Sunday and Turn YOUR Dreams Into Reality with like-minded souls.
Peace, Love, and Lots of Hugs & Grandma Melton!
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.”
~credited to Einstein
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” ~Nelson Mandela
After completing the “30 Days of Doing things Differently” I wrote about last month, I realized that it didn’t make sense to go back to doing things I “normally” did if I want my life to continue to grow and change. Writing & sending another newsletter to all of my Pilates & Personal Power Peeps - the NEXT month - is something I “normally” wouldn’t do.
I did it once. Last month. And that was a big stretch for me. I had the courage to make it through my fear last month. In the past, that would have been “good enough” for me. However, I am reminded of the famous quote, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.” So if I want new and different things to come into my life, I must do new and different things as well.
And then there is the courage thing…. Two weeks ago I walked on fire. It was an amazingly powerful experience and I definitely recommend trying it when the opportunity comes. When I was done I had the feeling that I could do anything. And yet as I sit down to write, the thought of sending this email out for others to read scares me way more than the potential of getting burned by walking on fire did.
“What if I sound stupid?” “What if no one reads what I’ve written because they already think I’m stupid?” “What if I annoy people by sending too many emails?” “What if people don’t like what I wrote?”
These are only but a few of the thoughts that my ego comes up with as reasons to be afraid. My ego likes to come up with reasons why I “should” be afraid of doing many things. And up until now, I’ve listened to it more than I’d like to admit, because I’ve been scared that my ego might be right. Today, I’m continuing to do things differently. I am choosing to feel my fears instead of ignore or repress them. I’m choosing to have the courage to walk through my fears when they arise, and writing this is one of them.
How often do you tell yourself that you want something different in your life, but continue to do the same things you’ve always done? How many times have you wanted to do something new, but let fear stop you?
In our society the “normal” thing to do is what is familiar and safe. It is “normal” to do what we’ve always done, what our parents and grandparents did (who, by the way, were just doing what their parents and grandparents did). New opportunities come to us and many of us don’t take these opportunities unless we know they are “safe.” Someone else has to do it first. We have to “know” that “it” works before we try it. Or we have to be told by our doctors, priests, professors, or some other authority figure that we should do whatever "it" is. We tend to say that someone is courageous if they “have no fear.” however I truly believe what Nelson Mandela said: “courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.”
Today is the perfect time to try something new and different in your life. Whether you celebrate the crazy holiday season or not, the craziness is everywhere. So, why not be a little crazy & different yourself? Why wait for the New Year? Try doing something you think you'd like to do in the new year for a day or two, just to see how it feels. If you don't like how you feel, don't do it anymore. Try something else in another day or two. Take it from me, if you find you like the way something new feels, you'll want to continue to do more of it.
The key is to start small and see what new behaviors feel good and let go of the ones that don't. Each time I add a new behavior that feels good and let go of one that doesn’t, the more excited I get to try something else. The more I keep trying and doing different things, the more exciting my life continues to be. I hope that I can inspire you to try something new and different too - BEFORE the New Year....
Hugs & Lots of Love!
Doing Things Differently….
Yesterday I was at a friends Porch Party and I mentioned that for 30 days I was doing things I wouldn’t “normally” do. A few people asked me for specifics. I didn’t have a specific answer for each day, so I gave examples. Yesterday I wore make-up, jewelry, shoes with heels, and blow-dried my hair. I usually don’t wear make-up or jewelry, I only blow-dry my hair once in a while, and I VERY RARELY wear shoes with heels. I also took a different driving route and decided to drink filtered water instead of tap water all day.
This morning I woke up at 3:00 am and instead of staying in bed, thinking about the things I could be doing, I decided to get up and start working on a Personal Power Pilates and Healing (P3H) Studio Newsletter. This is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time and normally I would wait until the time was just “perfect” - whatever that means. Then, I realized that this is the perfect “not normal” thing for me to do today.
Today I’m changing things up. Today I’m plunging deeper into embracing my Personal Power. Today I know that taking the journey to embrace my Personal Power is an endless and exciting journey that will last a life-time if that is what I choose. For me, embracing my Personal Power means that I continue to be a student of life and truth, that I enjoy my life and have as much FUN living it as possible, and that I have the courage to look at the things that hold me back so I can release them and continue moving forward.
My hope is that everyone reading this will choose to embrace their Personal Power in whatever way is right for them. This doesn’t look the same for everyone and it doesn’t even look the same each day for one person. Embracing your Personal Power is a spiral journey that continues to evolve, change, and expand with every new day, month, season, year, and age. One thing that is true for everyone is that by living from a place of power, you get to CHOOSE what your life looks like for you.
Whether you take Pilates at P3H, participate in monthly Breathwork Journey’s, have a healing energy session, or find other ways to embrace your Personal Power - there is nothing better in Life than living from a place of true empowerment. I hope that anytime, anyone visits the studio they are able to tap into their Personal Power a little bit more and when they return to the “normal” world they take their Power with them….
(Did I mention that there really is no such thing as “normal” ~~ except a setting on a washing machine????)
With Love & Hugs,
KC Bushnell has been teaching Pilates for 17 years and has unknowingly been on a path of self-discovery just as long. The last decade of her life, self-empowerment has been at the forefront of her life everyday.